What can replace computer games. How to replace games

Today's kids no longer play hide and seek and daughters and mothers. They rarely walk outside with friends, rarely fall from trees and do not really like throwing snowballs. That without which we cannot imagine childhood is becoming a thing of the past!

Instead of friends in the yard and classics on the asphalt, today's children have friends on social networks and shooters on the computer. But launching a bird into a bunch of pigs on a tablet (who does not know - this is the plot of the most popular game Angry Birds) is not at all the same as getting a shovel in the head in a sandbox! Who will grow up children, for whom the window to the outside world is Windows?

All these questions of universal importance I brought down on the head of Marina Chizhova, vice-rector of the Institute of Perinatal Psychology and Psychology of the Reproductive Sphere.

Tablets instead of books

Parents always say: "We weren't like that at your age!" Are modern children really closer to terminators than to moms and dads because of the dominance of gadgets?

It is true that, picking up gadgets, children change, - Marina Alekseevna nods. - But it normal! The environment around us also changes, and we adapt to it. With the very development of gadgets, we cannot do anything. If we throw tablets and televisions out of the house, then the child will bury himself in them, having come to visit someone. Simply because now mastering gadgets is an evolutionary challenge. It's the same as with alcohol: the right parent understands that the child will face it anyway. So let him try alcohol at home.

- But the problem is that you can't drag the children away from the screen by the ears!

And addiction occurs when a person does not have an internal regulator of behavior. If an alcoholic drinks, he feels good. But he himself, without alcohol, he can not do it "well". And it's the same story with gadgets. As long as I have a tablet in my hands, everything is simple. He dictates what we should do: run and shoot or like. Cut off the Internet or electricity - and emptiness, it is not clear what we should do. To avoid becoming addicted, we must learn to regulate ourselves. Or rather, parents should teach us this in childhood. But a child will never learn to define his needs if mom and dad severely restrict him.

- So after all, the parents themselves, who buried themselves in the book, who in the TV ...

If a mother is dependent on something, she cannot teach a child to be independent. It's just that before, parents went to books, now - to Odnoklassniki. And the more a parent is attached to something, the harder he tries to impose it! Mom says: books are good, but gadgets are bad! Although the tablet may have the same book ... And the child does not understand how to satisfy his needs.

Birds against dolls

- And what needs are generally satisfied by gadgets? Need to post a picture on your wall?

Gadgets satisfy our need to play. It is basic, this is a normal stage of development. This is how children learn behavioral skills.

- So let them play with dolls and cars ...

It's just such a division in our heads, and it's normal for a child to play with dolls and on the phone. The girl who plays with her doll at home is no different from the girl who plays Angry Birds on her tablet! Parents who say computer games are violent simply haven't seen their kids play. It's not interesting to just roll cars - they need to break and turn over ... Or do you think everything is rosy with the dolls? Yes, kindergarten teachers learn this about parents by watching their children play with dolls ... We need the game as a life simulator. And we don't need to work out positive situations, we are already coping with them well. We need games as a simulator for overcoming negativity.

- So, it is pointless to prohibit computer games with rivers of blood - they will win back on Barbies ...

If a child has a need to work out the violence, there is no point in hushing it up. You have to sit down and discuss it - like a movie after watching. And to convey the difference between real life and the game - we can say “I'll go and tear everyone up,” but in life we \u200b\u200bdon't.

- But is there a difference between shooting games on the tablet and playing war games in the yard?

Yes, at the same time the bodily sensation is lost, the way it is actually experienced. But if we are already working out our needs in a symbolic form, then let it be clearly symbolic! We do not let the child play with another child - we give a doll. And the more unrealistic it is, the better the child understands the difference with life.

Teach to learn

- Okay, games and gadgets are needed, but not 24 hours a day ...

And how should he understand that he needs to tear himself away from the gadget? We ourselves stick a tablet with cartoons into his hands to go about our business. Why should a child suddenly understand that this is bad? He was simply not taught anything else.

- So how can you get your child off the computer? For the ears?

Well, offering him to do homework instead of games is definitely pointless. Consider the generation of parents themselves: 90 percent of them watched TV for sure instead of solving problems! And our strategy is not to limit the pleasant, but to offer to do something else interesting. Buy a board game and go play, and invite the child to join. He himself will crawl out from behind the computer and come to see what it is without him having fun there. There is no need to force him and say: “Look, what a good game, now you will play and be happy” - he should see this pleasure in the eyes of his parents.

- In general, we must set an example. And when to do the lessons, if we have solid games?

The best thing to do here is to stop being interested in them. Did the child get a grade for unlearned lessons? We must ask him: how do you like it? Don't like that the teacher scolded? Well, probably the lessons should have been done. And if the child does not care, then the parent should not be interested in this either. Yes, on the third deuce the teacher will call - but he needs to be explained that lessons are the responsibility of the child himself. And if the parent is in contact with him, then after three or four deuces, the child himself begins to prepare for the lessons. And then in elementary school we sit with him all the time over tasks - so the child gets used to the fact that the mother does the homework, and not he.

- And how to explain to him that he needs to sit down and learn the years of Napoleon's life, and not spy on them in a lesson on the Internet?

We all learn through play. The child and I do first what he is interested in, through this he develops a skill that he then applies anywhere. If he is interested, he himself will find and remember everything about Napoleon! And the fact that we can find any information with one click will change our school. We cannot restrict the flow of information, but we do not teach children to analyze it either.

Under a big ban

- Now we will enlighten our readers, and their children will then study in a regular school. Where the computer is on the clock and the internet is filtered.

It is necessary to explain to the child that school is only one of the stages of life, that it is necessary to take skills there and move on. And do not kill yourself trying to make him fulfill all the school requirements. If we accept that a child can be a C grade, he will grow up normal. And you need to support children, not school! The child is with you for life, and you say goodbye to school. So why cut it to meet abstract requirements?

EXPERIMENT

Is the selected cell phone a path to suicide?

Two years ago, the Snob portal conducted its own experiment. 68 teenagers from 12 to 18 years old were asked to spend 8 hours alone without gadgets. All "human" activities - reading, playing, walking - were allowed.

Until the end of the experiment, only three people were sitting - two boys and one girl. Only seven were able to spend five hours alone with themselves.

Twenty girls and seven boys had hot flashes or chills, dizziness, nausea, sweating, dry mouth, tremors of the hands or lips, pain in the abdomen or chest, and a feeling of hair movement on the head. Almost everyone experienced anxiety, fear, and five experienced panic attacks. Three of them developed suicidal thoughts.

All fears and symptoms disappeared immediately after the termination of the experiment.

Computer games are a fun process. We may not even notice how we spent several hours with him. It's pretty easy to get lost in fictional worlds and plot twists that will keep you on the screen for "another 10 minutes."

Psychologist John M. Grohol is confident Coping with Video Game Addictiontime tracking can help in such a case. Write down what time you start playing and what time you finish. At the end of the week, calculate how many hours you spent playing games. Most likely, this figure will make you think again.

2. Set a limit

Set a timer to help you do this. Even if you continue to play after his signal, you will still know how much time you spent. And knowledge is the key to your salvation. Perhaps this will help develop a rule, for example, to play only with friends or only on certain days.

Do not limit yourself too much, this will aggravate the situation.

Besides the time limit, set. Determine how many games you can afford per month.

3. Choose your games thoroughly

Some games take a very long time to complete. Discard them in favor of those that can be completed in a shorter time.

4. Don't be afraid to end the game if you don't like it

Many players try to choose more difficult games in order to prove to themselves and to everyone what they are capable of. Tame your gaming ego. This is just virtual reality. If the game is not fun for you, just don't go through it.

Don't think of online games as real competition. Nobody will judge you if you just quit the game. This is your life, and only you can decide what to spend your time on.

5. Earn time to play

If you abandon household chores, work and personal life because of games, then you are in serious problems. Try to earn the game. Don't sit down at your computer until you complete your current tasks. Remember, the goal is not to give up video games altogether. It is important for you to realize that they are only part of yours.

Many people find it strange and useless to stream video games on YouTube or Twitch. And in vain. Instead of wasting your time, you can watch someone else do it. You don't have to sit in front of the screen. You can do useful things like cleaning.

7. Have a game hunger strike

Not everyone will be able to abruptly give up video games for a while. But sometimes it works. If you feel like it's time for you to return to reality, try deleting all games from your computer, or collecting all the discs and taking one of your friends for storage. For example, for two weeks or a month.

You will have more time for important things and meetings with dear people.

You will understand that real life is much more interesting and games will not replace it.

8. Find the reason for your escape from reality

Computer games are a good way to relax. However, gambling addiction is a form of escapism. Consider if you are hiding from something in the virtual world.

If you have problems in your personal life, discuss them with your partner. If you are under pressure from work, get help and try to find a solution to the problem. It is more effective than hiding behind a monitor.

In the game we are all strong and resilient, but in reality we are not always. But you will not acquire these qualities if you persist in the tests that life has prepared for you.

Addiction to computer games is a real problem for modern humanity. Virtual games are addictive, attract attention, and take away valuable time, which is simply wasted. Is there a cure for video game addiction and how to make it work? The answer to this question lies in understanding the psychology of those who are more involved in it than in reality.

• Who and why is at risk of being addicted to computer games?
• What are the negative aspects of psychological addiction to computer games?
• Why do people who depend on computer games have outbursts of aggression and make a transfer from virtual to reality?
• How to completely and absolutely get rid of addiction to computer games?

Who are you, dear reader? An anxious and saddened parent looking for information on children's computer game addiction? A loving wife or a caring husband who showed signs of addiction to computer games in his significant other? Or maybe you yourself feel and understand that something is wrong in your life, that you devote too much time and value to computer games?

One way or another, one thing is clear: addiction to computer games exists, this is not a fiction and not a far-fetched hype around a non-existent problem. For the players themselves, the game is the most that neither is reality, which leads to real problems. The game creates a world in which you can find an outlet, at the same time it interferes with life and as if it makes an outcast out of a person - this is what the player risks becoming after many years of addiction to computer games. And the symptoms that can be observed in the player are more than frightening even for himself.

What to do? How to avoid addiction to computer games? Where to seek salvation? Is there a cure?

Before answering these questions, let's agree on one convention. We will not condemn a person who is addicted to computer games, but we will try to understand why the player is so attracted to go there, in the virtual world. And it is through this understanding that we will be able to find answers to the above questions.

I'm on a trolleybus. Next to me is a boy, about 15 years old, hovering in a tablet, with skillful fingers trying to pass the most difficult level of his game. The boy is focused on the process, his stubborn zeal for victory is surprising, his tension with which he approaches the game is mesmerizing - it feels like now, at the moment, his whole life depends on victory. And there is nothing around. And nobody.

I look over my shoulder at his screen and see that the kid has lost. Once again, obviously. Although outwardly he does not express any emotion, not a single muscle on his face flinched, I literally feel his angry disappointment. But he does not waste time - he launches the same level in a new way. And again - into battle!

The guy seems to be falling into the game. This is life! Beautiful graphics, perfectly traced characters to the smallest detail, tremendous speed of response to the slightest movement with one finger - it seems that the player is God himself in this game.

But here the boy's mother comes into play. She suddenly jerks his shoulder sharply, screams in his ear - our stop, it's time to get out. It is at this very moment that the decisive episode takes place on the screen. Probably the one that the boy went through many times. And every time I lost. The one, for the victory in which he, for sure, now, at the moment, is ready to give half his life and half his kingdom, if he had it.

The boy continues to play, but his mother pulls him, and the trolleybus inexorably starts to slow down. The player is unable to look away from the screen, he tries to play, and stand, and walk to the exit at the same time. And, of course, there was an embarrassment. The guy touched some kind of wheelbarrow, apples fell in the cabin and rolled out through the already open doors. The grandma groans, the passengers are perplexed, the guy and mother roll out of the trolleybus. And through the doors that are already closing, I hear my mother's screams and lamentations that all the boy's attention, his whole life is in this damn toy and in the computer, that he does not study well and does not communicate with his peers, that he is a real hermit. Her voice breaks down to screeching, she literally drags the child, who is taller than herself on the head, by the collar and yells something. What, I can no longer hear.

Surprisingly, the boy never takes his eyes off the screen. He continues to play and does not seem to hear his mother. And she, although she threatens to take the toy from her son, does not do it, because she knows what an inadequate reaction can be in response to this action, including an aggressive one.

I feel sorry for my mother, she really wants everything to make her son happy. But I'm even more sorry for the boy, because he, too, just wants to be left alone.

Probably everyone played computer games. Through system-vector thinking, it is easy to understand that those who spend their time playing computer games for days are most often people with a sound vector. It is the sound people who have a whole set of characteristics that make them potentially addicted players.

For all people in the world who were born without a sound vector, the ordinary world is all life. Such a person, from an early age, learns to communicate with others of his own kind, to distinguish between plants and animals, to gain benefit, to create something of high quality, to build cities, to live in a state. For a sound engineer, the world around is illusory. The less the sound engineer has managed to develop, socialize, acquire social skills, the more illusory the world around him is.

Computer games often become salvation, they replace the real world for the sound person, involving him in virtuality, as in real life. A life in which everything is different, in which you can truly (as it seems to the sound engineer) live. There the whole world is built around him, he decides what is happening in this world. In him he is God and the king, almost the Creator. And any bodily imperfections, for example, smells, do not interfere.
It would seem, well, what's wrong with that. Well, a person is playing a game for himself, well, let him play. He does not interfere with anyone with his action. Especially when it comes to children. Someone plays real games, and this one plays virtual ones - what's the difference? In fact, there is a difference and it is huge.

A person with a sound vector lives his whole life with a special division of the world: into internal and external. For him, there are, as it were, two separate environments: one is his soul, what he experiences within himself, and the other is the world around him. Already being small, he distinguishes these two worlds from each other, and reaches out to understand where the line lies between them. At the age of 6, he asks the questions “why was I born?”, “What will happen when I die?”, “Is there a God and what is he like?” And the world that is inside for him is very important and valuable, and the one outside - it is outside, not studied and often hostile. When a small sound child is properly brought up, instilling in him the morality of society, developing internal moral attitudes, barriers and principles are formed in him, it is they that allow him to live in society as an adequate person. But while he is small, while these boundaries do not yet exist, getting into virtual games, where the line between reality and the fictional world is erased, he is more and more fixed in the idea that the outside world is just an illusion. The more he freezes in games, the more social maladaptive he becomes. Living more and more in his illusion, he runs the risk of never getting any moral or moral restrictions, which means that he will allow himself everything that he wants at some point.

If you shoot 20 hours a day without interruptions from a pistol at characters drawn to wrinkles, then a shift gradually occurs when the hated real world merges with the virtual one. There is a feeling that ordinary people on the streets are almost the same characters and you can express your hatred towards them just by pulling the trigger. A sound engineer who has lost touch with reality can do this. And news feeds from time to time explode with such eerie messages of mass shootings.

Plunging into virtual reality, a person with an unfilled sound vector falls into a trap. He ceases to strive to fulfill his role, that is, in fact, he begins to degrade as a person, a socially useful member of society. While such a life suits him, it brings less discomfort. And at this time, what really happens is this: he stops studying, does not work well and becomes a burden, both for his family and for teachers or employers. Everyone wants to get rid of him, they avoid him, and so gradually he is ousted from normal life. And this pushes him even more into the game, from which you never want to leave.

An adult, developed person with a sound vector, who has "gone" into the game, still has a chance to get out of it. After all, he runs there from depressions, from his sound questions, and, having filled up, can still return to a full life. But if a child does not develop initially until puberty, does not receive a moral and moral vaccination from parents and society, lives in games, risks permanently ceasing to distinguish between reality and virtuality.

If you are a parent of a child or a close person of someone who is addicted to computer games:		If you yourself feel addicted to computer games, and this puts you on your guard:
Learn one thing, the more you put pressure on the gambling addict, the more you try to remake him, the more you increase the discomfort in this world for him, thereby pushing him into the game even more. By forcibly taking a computer, banning games, you can lead to disaster with your own hands. This does not mean that there is no need to act. It is necessary, and without delaying a day. But not by prohibitions and moralizing, but by luring the gamer out of his virtual space by what will be more interesting to him in this world.		Keep in mind that you are not worrying for nothing. Yes, addiction to computer games is really a problem. And yes, it will progress. By itself, everything will not go away and will not resolve, no matter what age and gender you are. But to refuse it just like that, on willpower or self-prohibition, too, will not work. Simply because our body is not designed like that: you will continue to do what brings you pleasure. And a computer game brings you this pleasure, although it is small (and it seems great simply because there is nothing to compare with). You can get rid of this only by replacing the pleasure of the game with something of greater mass and significance.

How to get rid of, or save a loved one from addiction to computer games?

It is impossible to cure a person / child's addiction to computer games simply by taking away a toy or forbidding him to play. It's like depriving a hungry person of food, like taking water from a thirsty person. Of course, we understand that a computer game is a bad filler for a sound vector, like unleavened oatmeal for a hungry one, but it is all that he has. Nothing but aggression and deaf misunderstanding can be expected in response. Moreover, the prohibition will only increase the desire to play, and by doing so we will push him even more into this very addiction. And if we also put pressure on the player, shout at him, force him to do something, strain him, then it is as if we ourselves, with our own hands, push him into the virtual world. After all, there is no all this abuse and stupid fuss, because it is good there!

It is not necessary to take away the game from a computer game addict, but to offer something that will be an order of magnitude higher, better, more interesting. If you give a person more delicious food, he himself will give up unleavened oatmeal.

Therefore, there is only one way to treat addiction to computer games - and it is not easy. A sound person can be pulled out of the game only by giving him answers to his inner questions "why?" and why?" By the way, you can distract an addicted person from computer games in just a couple of minutes, simply by starting a conversation with him about the meaning of life and carefully listening to his thoughts on this matter. And he certainly has a lot of them, and many of them are bad and depressing, which is not surprising for a suppressed sound engineer. But by attracting his attention with questions, catching him with "bait", making it clear that this answer exists, gradually he can be pulled out of the pit of gambling addiction and lead to another life.

Where to look for these very answers to the questions "why?" and why?" They lie in the understanding of human nature, the characteristics of all people, their lives, and most importantly - the very sound vector from which all these mental torments come. Yuri Burlan talks about this at trainings in system-vector psychology. He reads his lectures online, so that everyone can visit them, regardless of where they live. Free lectures are held every month, find out about the nearest dates or by clicking on the banner:

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How to replace games	Description
Broadcast video games	To many, it seems completely useless to watch the broadcasts of other people's games, which are often broadcast live or are available for viewing on YouTube. In fact, you can make this activity useful for yourself. By turning on the broadcast, you can freely go about your chores around the house, while listening to the player.
Board games	Such a replacement may not be relevant for everyone; you can try this tactic with a child who is just beginning to get acquainted with the fascinating world of games and so far there is no point in talking about strong gambling addiction. Exciting board games that will gather family and friends around the table are a great pastime.
Hobby	See how much time is spent sitting at the computer in parallel reality.
Walking in the fresh air	Not everyone can just walk for several hours in the fresh air. You can get yourself a pet, then walking will become just an obligatory part of your daily routine. You can arrange cycling, jogging. It all depends on the desire.
Sports	Sign up for the gym, pay in full for the subscription and the services of a personal trainer. It will be a pity to lose the money spent and it will be a great incentive to go to training. Choose an activity you like so that a few hours of intensive activities will completely exhaust you and you simply do not have the energy to play.

Addiction to computer games is an urgent problem faced by many. Games in parallel reality, building tactics, strategies, pumping heroes and weapons take so much time among adolescents and adults that they are ready to sacrifice free time, family, study and even work. Any restrictions cause violent protests and scandals.

It is important to discern such a state in time, to stop it. It is important to find alternative options that can replace games, so as not to contact specialists in the future and not to treat severe addiction.

Streaming video games

Many, in order to spend several hours in their favorite game, forget about household duties, dumping all the work on one family member, parents. You can fight this. Start watching live streams of your favorite games with commentary.

At this moment, you don't need to sit in front of the screen, but rather you should do constant household chores. Cleaning and cooking will be much faster if you listen to interesting information at the same time as you work. Thanks to this habit, you can significantly reduce the time spent at the computer.

Evenings spent with the whole family playing board games may seem boring to some, but the situation can be changed.

Choose a game of chance, place bets where the reward will not be money, but release from some housework. Come up with tasks for the one who loses.

Board games can be as exciting as computer games. One has only to choose the most interesting among them and attract all family members and friends.

Hobby

Time that used to be devoted only to games should be put back on track. The teenager can be invited to enroll in a course in the specialty that attracts him.

There are tons of options for a useful and interesting pastime. You need to select classes only if a person likes it, he is ready to learn, develop.

If such a pastime becomes a punishment, the addiction to a computer game cannot be eliminated.

Walks in the open air

Daily outdoor activities, cycling, swimming or playing football are becoming a way of life for many.

A person who spends most of his time sitting at a computer will not be able to immediately appreciate the delights of such active recreation. You should start small, walking, gradually getting carried away with something new.

Games can replace your favorite. Walking the dog, training - it takes time and effort. The pet will become a real salvation for those who love animals and are ready to devote their free time to them.

Sport

Spending time in the gym must be voluntary. Enrolling a teenager in sections so that he simply does not sit at home is a mistake. Sport will not attract, but repel, I associate only with punishment. It is important to select classes taking into account personal wishes and health conditions.

For many, computer games almost completely replace the surrounding reality. Such dependence is dangerous not only for a person, but also for his loved ones. It is important to notice the first warning signs of addiction in time and find alternative ways than to replace games.

Content

A hobby for an adult is not only a good way to diversify a rather monotonous life, but also to get away from stress. Someone cannot live without models of military equipment, repeating their prototypes in the smallest details, someone does not like stamps or old postcards, and someone is attracted by Spanish dances or choral singing. Such interests are welcome. Many hobbies expand a person's horizons and social circle and even become family ones. But what to do if a seemingly harmless occupation becomes a mania, the personality does not develop, but degrades, mutual understanding and good relations in the family are broken.

What is gambling addiction?

Computer addiction can lead to such disastrous results, which drags on serious family, adults, more often men. Returning to work, the father of the family plunges into the virtual world and stops responding to both quiet requests and loud reproaches from loved ones. Sometimes it is difficult for a man to tear himself away from the monitor, even for dinner, just for the reason that he participates in an attack or there, behind the glass, there is a decisive battle.

What to do with such a warrior? How can a spouse and the whole family return the attention of a husband and father who has gone into the world of computer games? It turns out that psychologists have long been interested in this problem and put a kind of diagnosis "gambling addiction" to people who devote more than twelve hours a day to virtual wars. It is difficult for people who have not encountered this misfortune to believe that it is possible, after working all day, to get involved in the game. In fact, the situation can develop in such a way that a person quits work, and sleeps and eats haphazardly and clearly not enough. In the most difficult, neglected cases, the gambler ceases to take care of himself, forgetting about hygienic procedures and the most elementary household duties.

Multiplayer games are also dangerous because virtual friends and enemies are so subconscious that they become part of supposedly real life. The computer world replaces the real one, and the game will have to be pulled out of the network with the help of qualified doctors. Psychologists use various psychotherapeutic techniques, hypnosis, and even medications.

The spouse is constantly at the computer

Women who do not take too seriously the addiction to computer games and say that such a husband's leisure is better than alcohol or gambling are mistaken. All these activities, if abused, lead to the same ending. The family loses its head, the wife loses contact with her husband, the marriage will sooner or later fall apart.

The psychology of men is such that in the depths of their souls, each of them remains a child, with passion and sincere delight playing with accessible toys. Someone from morning till night is ready to spend next to their favorite car, someone enthusiastically fishing or hunting. This is the manifestation of masculine nature - the nature of a warrior, earner and conqueror. And what could be simpler, turn on the computer, start the game and become a brave conqueror of space, a captain of free pirates or a fearless lone hero from a tribe of wood elves. The world is beautiful and bright, there is no garbage waiting in the wings, no vacuum cleaner and burnt-out light bulbs ... There are no annoying family members in this kind of Wonderland. There is only epic music, a well-aimed hand and loyal companions, ready to fight and win tirelessly!

But where can the real relatives and friends of the hero go, who are no longer virtually, but completely really lose the gamer?

In no case should one withdraw and step aside. Not finding the strength to fight the imperfection of the world, an adult often begins to play in order to maintain his own reputation at least in the game. This is a non-aggressive way to get away from big and small problems, which can also become a simulator of real life.

Husband plays "tanks"

It's not so bad when the spouse's hobbies are games for one player. Even the brightest and most addictive sagas come to an end. Someone will need a couple of days off and the same number of sleepless nights to go through the whole plot, someone will get bogged down for a month or even six months. But after the end of the story, the man will not want to return to the mi games right away. Moreover, the continuation of your favorite toy, most likely, will not be released soon.

It is much worse if the husband has gone into the world of a multiplayer game. This means that a person got into the community of the same gambling addicts and the endless process of building great empires and battles for someone's bright future.

The strategies that allow you to play online take a lot of time waiting for the moment when the next building is built or the necessary skill develops. Dozens of minutes, hours and whole days are spent building fortresses and recruiting armies. All this time, a person is tied to a computer. Not everyone is captivated by this process. People with low self-esteem or unrealized ambitions are more often dependent on strategies. The virtual emperor or general tries to exalt himself in the game and thus forget about real failures.

Online RPG or action games are even more dangerous than strategies. A carefully thought-out plot, round-the-clock servers, thousands of players simultaneously online and an eternal action, once in which, it is already unrealistic to break out. Players are organized into colorful teams and interact within the storyline. Sometimes the game replaces life so much that people in it begin to acquire first friends and enemies, and then households.

Everything would be fine, but the spouse, following the purchase of a webcam and microphone, proceeds to modernize his gaming arsenal, improve armor and acquire real estate. Accompanied by the process of wasting the real family budget, truancy and stupid, almost childish deception for the sake of the opportunity to play for your own pleasure.

If this stage of gaming sickness has come, you can't hesitate!

How to deal with computer addiction

In order to tear her husband away from the monitor, women sometimes decide to take the most severe measures. Someone confines themselves to banal abuse and nags their spouse, blaming abandoned children who receive deuces, a washing machine that has not been working for six months and a vacation postponed for the next century. But this approach has probably never had a positive effect. Wounded pride makes the head of the family plunge even deeper into the virtual world, where no one scolds, where he is a hero and master.

Decisive ladies cut it alive and turn off the Internet. But the whole family suffers from this, because today both the children and the mother herself need access to the network. It is impossible to tear the gambler out of hobby by such actions. He will easily start playing at work, use free access somewhere in a cafe or will constantly overpay for mobile Internet.

The most desperate women, sacrificing themselves, their interests and time, begin to play with their spouse. This path is the most controversial. On the one hand, you can get hooked and also become addicted, and, on the other hand, communication with your husband will certainly improve, since new communication interests will appear. If you collect all the will in a fist, then you can control your spouse and save him from many of the side dangers that accompany online games.

This is latent aggression, which can break out in reality during many hours of virtual battles, and beer gatherings with real, and more often with virtual, friends at the monitor, and pleasant acquaintances of a husband on the network, which can become a real problem for his wife.

Are there any effective ways to return your husband to the real world? It turns out there is.

What to do?

First of all, you shouldn't impose a strict ban on games. There is nothing more offensive and outrageous for a grown man than a ban. The main task of a woman is to distract her spouse from the harmful activity as much as possible and to occupy his free time with useful deeds. Therefore, let him play, but in the pauses between the hike to the garden for his son, a walk with the dog, minor repairs of furniture, a trip with his mother-in-law to the dacha and a hundred other important errands. Things should be communicated to the performer in advance so that he can plan his time, and be undoubtedly urgent.

Such a technique can turn out to be both a good prevention for novice gamers, and a medicine in the early stages of the disease, but only on condition that no one will indulge the man in his excessive passion for the game. You should not bring dinner to the computer and do everything undone around the house for your spouse: hang shelves that fell a month ago or clean the siphon in the bathroom.

But it is imperative to praise your husband. The sooner he realizes that in reality he is loved and appreciated, that he is a real hero here, the easier it will be to return him from the virtual world.

How to restore communication with your spouse

To restore the lost contact, it is enough to become interested in your spouse's favorite game and start discussing the events taking place in it. What is the plot, who are the heroes of the game, and on whose side is the husband fighting? Surely he will be pleased to talk about his achievements, show off his equipment and introduce him to his colleagues. Even if all these details do not captivate the spouse, you can pretend to be interested in the name of establishing contacts and returning the husband.

And sincere admiration for a spouse can play a good role in restoring emotional ties and trust in the wife. This will be the start of the next stage in extracting the second half from the depths of the game world.

You should not leave your husband alone with the computer for a long time. There are many topics for discussion, including those that are not very pleasant to the spouse. In this case, you need to take his side and, talking about failures or difficulties, still praise your husband, approve of his actions and rejoice in solving problems. Pleasant moments from childhood or the recent past, shared memories and dreams can please all family members and turn into a dream of an upcoming vacation or a Sunday walk together. No matter how good and interesting people surround the spouse, at this stage it is important to move the circle of his interests and trust into the family.

If the family has enough acquaintances and friends, you can often receive guests, accompanying the gatherings with all kinds of competitions and board games. A pleasant conversation at the table and a victory not over a virtual, but quite tangible enemy is a sure way to free your husband from computer captivity.

Bearing in mind the natural tendency of men to feel like hunters and hunters, it is important to show that it is pleasant for a woman to be close to such a man. Here are just home pants with bubbles on the knees and an old T-shirt with coffee stains do not match the image of the hero. A woman is simply obliged to help her husband feel like a desired hero, without which she is practically helpless.

Women's tricks

Women do not take cunning, therefore, in the struggle for their own spouse, this serious weapon can and should be used.

In the game, the spouse is an invincible knight, pumped to the hundredth level? Let the husband in life feel that only he can overcome the severe trials in this house, and the woman, as usual, is too weak to be a hero. To do this, you can go to the trick and pretend to be inept, coward, silly and sissy at the same time. Let men's stereotypes work for women!

Even if the wife is able to install a toilet bowl with her eyes closed, go over the engine of the car and change the wiring in the apartment, you need to assure the husband that without his help the woman will disappear. Let the spouse show his skills, receive well-deserved praise and begin to believe that it is still better from this side of the monitor.

You should not rush things, patience is a much better ally than anger and abuse. More significant results can be achieved without making loud scenes and not arranging a boycott, but talking heart to heart and entrusting important things for the family, which the spouse will certainly perform “perfectly”. A man must independently assert himself in the thought that this beautiful bright, and, most importantly, the real world cannot do without him.

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